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Blog Recommendation: Inspiration Peak

September 1, 2011 by admin

“It rains here so people know to rest.” Our landlord was discussing our plans for the next few days, as clouds and rain have rolled in. I am also slowed by two large blisters, one on the side of each foot. While they haven’t stopped my hiking because of their location, they woke me in the night a few times. Today we have an easy schedule with no hiking involved, to give my feet a chance to rest and heal.

Many of us have been forced to rest and heal at this point in our lives. I’ve met a number of women recently who have shared stories of how they started writing at midlife. In many cases, illness forced them to slow down and reassess their lives, causing them to change priorities to those which mattered more. This happened to me as well, though my moment of truth occurred at age 37 when I temporarily lost my ability to think, let alone write. As I look back on those years of chronic illness, I am grateful for the gift I received: I learned that to speed up in my life, I needed to slow down.

Having learned from this experience, though, I not only have committed to my writing but also to keeping myself healthy and strong. This includes taking needed downtime to relax and rejuvenate.

As children, we were taught the story of The Tortoise and the Hare. We learned that “slow and steady wins the race.” Unfortunately, we have sped up as a society and embraced “no pain, no gain,” and “just do it.”

As we enter September, we’re going to examine silence and stillness as tools for helping us manifest our dreams. It may feel counter-intuitive at first, but when we learn to spend time, even a little bit of time, quieting our minds and bodies, we somehow get more done with less effort. I almost hesitate to write that, because the goal is not to achieve — the goal is to relax and delve into deeper parts of ourselves. The achievement is more of a side benefit.

Let’s start with something easy. By reading inspirational words daily, we give ourselves time to nurture our spirits, which are often parched from day-to-day pressures and stresses. For today, I thought I would recommend Inspiration Peak, a place to find quotes, stories, and poetry. Spend five our ten minutes on this site. Instead of refreshing the web page, the page refreshes you!

I hope you enjoy visiting this lovely site and that you find inspiration there. I’ll be back on Monday with new blog posts. Have a great weekend!

Filed Under: blogs Tagged With: creativity, inspiration, Inspiration Peak, writing

When Dreams Turn to Nightmares: Hanging in There When You Get Discouraged (Part I)

August 31, 2011 by admin

A few weeks ago I wrote about how you could excavate buried dreams and start to bring them to the forefront. So maybe you try something, like pulling out a sketch pad and drawing. You’re excited, revved up, ready to go. Then you discover that the brilliant idea in your head has come out looking like a first grader’s eager but technically challenged effort. You may ask yourself then, “What was I thinking?”

It’s easy to get discouraged if you’re feeling obsolete. Believe me, I know. I spend my days writing, revising, and studying my craft, and for what? I know I am working against the odds. Even building a blog audience, as I attempt to do here several days a week, seems fraught with discouragement as the audience remains small. A lot of people give up and leave their novels in a drawer.

So why do it? Why pursue a dream that may not, probably won’t, come true?

The first answer, for me, is that my life is a happier one when I pursue my dreams. I used to work in a corporate environment. I worked hard each day composing and revising contracts for the natural gas industry. I worked with great people that I sometimes miss, but more often than not I hated getting up and going to work each day. I hated the politics, the chauvinism, the attempts of others to hijack my day and rearrange my priorities to the detriment of the work.

On my lunch hours, I wrote. Yes, people started to think I was antisocial, but that’s another story. When I wrote, I could let go of the morning and face the afternoon. Writing, even on a day when writing didn’t come easily (which is often), brought me joy.

Second, we teach our children to find their bliss. We have spent countless hours helping my husband’s children find their educational and career paths, always advising them to find something they can enjoy doing. If we’re not teaching them by example, what will they really learn? They tend to do as we do, not as we say. Besides, why should they have all the fun?

Finally, is it possible that we need to redefine what success means to us? We are conditioned in this society that more is better…bigger houses, newer cars, more stuff. What’s our job title? How much are we making? Sadly, we have even begun to judge peoples’ worth by their income levels, as evidenced by the current snobbery toward low wage earners.

Yet all these “things” don’t bring genuine quality of life. Yes, having enough money to make ends meet and enjoy life a little is a good thing. I’ve been broke and I’ve had money, and having money is definitely better…but it doesn’t make us better people. And, some people who make a lot of money genuinely love their jobs. Some make a difference in the world with their work, or use the money they earn to support causes they believe in.

What makes us a success, though, is not how much we earn but whether we are engaged in life and feeling a prevailing sense of joy about who we are. When we are true to the best of ourselves, honing and developing our talents, we are successful. Money may or may not come from that. But true happiness will.

Now that we’ve defined why we do what we love, the question is, how do we keep ourselves going when we feel discouraged? How do we draw that next sketch, revise the story that has gone awry, or keep going when we’re just too darn tired? Or, what happens when health or other life circumstances derail our dreams altogether? How do we find strength when a dream is taken from us altogether?

That’s for next week, folks. Stay tuned for Part II.

Filed Under: Uncategorized, writing Tagged With: creativity, discouragement, dreams, women, writing

Good Morning, Monday!

August 15, 2011 by admin

I hope everyone had a great weekend! Since I am neck-deep revising two novels, I have kept busy. I’m trying to get the latest versions done before we embark on our next trip in a few weeks. These revisions include increasing detail, so I’ve been “shopping” for my characters, buying them clothes and cars that show their lifestyle. My character Julia absolutely needed a little Mercedes Cabriolet convertible–red, of course! In my real life, I’m not fond of shopping (unless I’m with my sisters!), but I confess that I am having fun feeling like I’m revisiting childhood dress-up play.

As we enter into mid-August, for many of you the nests are emptying out. It’s a good time to think about playing dress-up with our own lives, whether that means trying on new clothes or trying on new activities to discover or rediscover our interests and passions. Last year I learned that I loved gardening, even though I never tried it until age 51. Who knows what surprises are in store, if we just open ourselves to this new phase? What can we learn about ourselves and what holds meaning for us?

While we’re playing dress-up with our new lives, we may feel like young adolescents in other ways, too, as hormones create interesting situations and force mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual transitions. This week, for our Book Discovery Tuesday, I am going to write about Susun Weed. While she has a new book that I haven’t yet read, I have found one of her older ones, The New Menopausal Years, to provide supportive help and relief for menopausal symptoms. It’s tough to be excited about the midlife years when we’re battling exhaustion, depression, and hot flashes! With warm, encouraging words, Susun initiates us into menopause, acknowledging both the challenges and the invitation to shed old roles that no longer serve us.

On Wednesday, we’ll talk more about uncovering our identities now that our roles as mothers diminish. We’ll look at how to find and rekindle old dreams, as well as how to manifest them. We’ll look at ways to cut away those activities that drain us or otherwise take us away from those dreams so that we can take time each day to take care of what truly matters to us.

I’m excited that some of you are starting to contact me and share your experiences! Please keep the feedback coming. Also, if you have a favorite blog to recommend for our Thursday blog feature, please let me know. Have a great week!

Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: Change of Plans, creativity, dreams, nadine feldman, nadine galinsky, novelist, novels, writing

So, What Else Do You Do?

May 25, 2011 by admin

My late mother-in-law, Jenny Feldman, left behind an extensive body of artwork that she made long after she gave up the dream of getting recognition as an artist. Even when her hands hurt too much to make large works, she adapted by making little spiral-bound books of drawings. At some point in her life, though, she tired of what she called the “fine arts slog” of promoting her work and instead, made art that pleased her. Some of that artwork covers our walls, and we are proud to show off our Jenny Feldman Originals.

I shared her writings in Patchwork and Ornament: A Woman’s Journey of Life, Love, and Art, in part because I loved her, in part because I found her writing compelling, and perhaps, to a larger degree, because I wanted her to have some of the recognition that eluded her in life. I wanted that for her because I want that for me. Perhaps that isn’t the highest and best motive, but I think any writer or artist would understand.

Sitting each day at my computer, I write new work and polish existing work, knowing that much of what I do may never see the light of day. My work is less visible than Jenny’s, stored on computers and websites, but it’s a body of work that continues to grow. Will it sell? I don’t know. I will do what I can to make it so. I will make the best work I can and, if I don’t find a publisher, will put it online as e-books and podcasts in hopes of building an audience.

Whenever I meet someone knew, and they ask me what I do, I explain that I’m a writer. They always ask, “What do you write?” closely followed by, “And what else do you do?” When I went to an office every day, miserable though I was, no one ever asked me “what else do you do?” They accepted that I had a full-time job. Well, I work harder as a writer than I ever did on the job. Each morning I get up and work, writing and polishing. I contribute and submit to a critique group. I read writing books. I read endless novels, some of them not very good, to learn my craft.  I blog to get in more writing practice. My husband, a playwright when he isn’t writing computer programs, understands. Writing is a profession and a practice, but for many of us, the work that we do goes unnoticed, even by family and friends.

So why do it, if there is, for most writers, little respect or money involved? What keeps us going when we have little to show for our efforts, including recognition of those efforts?

The other day I received a note from a grandmother in Massachusetts ordering a copy of When a Grandchild Dies. Her granddaughter, she explained, died at six months, and would I please send her a copy of the book? I knew that though my audience is small, I have felt much affection for those grandparents who sent me notes and told me their stories. People have told me that they passed the book around in their family so everyone could read it, and it helped them get through the pain. These grandparents may never realize how often their outreach to me has pulled me from a writer’s funk.

Today I pulled out a notebook from a novel writing class I attended a few years ago, and some loose pages fell out. When I looked at them, they were lists of possible agents, more people to research and query. Despite my moments of discouragement, I still felt hope when I saw the names. I took it as a message from my teacher, and perhaps a greater teacher, not to give up. Publication may never happen, but what if it didn’t only because I didn’t try hard enough? I don’t have enough rejections to say that I’m done.

Mostly, though, I write because that’s what I do. That is how I was hooked up from the beginning of my life, though it took decades for me to understand this. I feel better. I’m less cranky and more loving with my family. I feel alive. Maybe no one will ever know my characters, but I know them and love them as though they were real people. I laugh with them, weep with them, and sometimes get angry with them, but I can’t wait to get together with them when I get up in the morning. When I fall asleep at night, I ask questions about the story so that my mind can work in my sleep to come up with answers to plot dilemmas.

This morning I finished yet another draft of Change of Plans. Two weeks from Friday, I attend an Agents Conference, and I will share my novel, and my beloved characters, with an agent. I feel shy and afraid, but I know these women, these imaginary friends, inside and out. I will tell their stories in the hopes that the agent will agree that others will love them like I do. And, if I don’t get the message across, I have these lists of agents that fell onto my feet this morning. Hope springs eternal!

Filed Under: Uncategorized, writing Tagged With: books, Change of Plans novel, creativity, independent publishing, jeanette feldman, jenny feldman, literary agents, memoir, nadine feldman, nadine galinsky, novelist, novels, patchwork and ornament book, publishing, When a Grandchild Dies, writing, writing business

Conference Preparations

May 19, 2011 by admin

22 days and counting down to the Writers’ League of Texas Agents and Editors Conference to be held in Austin June 10-12, 2011. This is my second conference, having attended two years ago when Patchwork and Ornament was named a finalist in the memoir category. This year I am presenting Change of Plans in hopes of landing an agent. One of my fellow writers on the She Writes website told me today that she found her agent at a conference, so I’m hopeful.

While I’m working diligently on my draft, making changes suggested to me by Diane Tyrel, who as a professional writer and editor has become my new best friend, I’m also working on my mindset for the conference. I have some work to do in that regard.

First, I’ve been an independent publisher for so long that I’m reluctant to go the “traditional” route, but I suspect that this reluctance is more about fear of rejection. Yes, it’s not easy to land an agent or publisher, but I haven’t really tried that hard–yet. I think that sitting down and speaking with an agent will help alleviate those fears. I’ve met more and more women who are writing successfully using agents and publishers, and they’ve actually enjoyed the process! Today, in my She Writes critique group chat, an eighth grade student joined us and wants to be in the group for the summer. I guess if she can step out of her comfort zone at her age, so can I.

Second, I’d rather sit behind a computer than schmooze, and conferences are all about schmoozing. I like meeting other writers and listening to what they’re writing about, but we are to be prepared at all times–you never know who you might meet in an elevator, and several agents have found longtime clients that way. Part of getting comfortable is to come up with a short pitch, which I’m sure I will repeat like a mantra on the drive to Austin, so that it comes out sounding relaxed. The last time I went to the conference, I stayed at a different hotel, which was a mistake since it didn’t allow me the opportunity for those chance meetings. This time, I promise not to hide out.

Finally, part of changing my mindset is letting go of the outcome. Change of Plans is my best work yet and shows a maturing of my writing skills, and whether or not I find an agent, I can be proud of this book. Really, sometimes I forget to acknowledge myself for just finishing the darn thing, let alone creating something that would appear to be both publishable and marketable. Why not just go to the conference and have a good time? Wow, there’s a concept. Maybe I’m growing after all!

I’m spending more time on the yoga mat as I prepare, even changing up my practice for this event to address my natural jitters. I’m dusting off Jeff Davis’s The Journey from the Center to the Page, which helps me connect my yoga practice to my writing practice, and I’ve downloaded some yoga classes from teachers I admire and respect. In this way, I hope to go to the conference with an open mind and heart, and a willingness to learn from the experience–regardless of whether I get what I want.

Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: books, Change of Plans, creativity, Diane Tyrel, Jeff Davis Author, Journey From the Center to the Page, literary agents, nadine feldman, nadine galinsky, novelist, novels, patchwork and ornament book, Writers' League of Texas, writing, yoga

A Writing Pilgrimage

April 19, 2011 by admin

Orchard House
A Writing Pilgrim Visits Orchard House

When Louisa May Alcott penned Little Women in the 1860s, she didn’t want to write the book. Her publisher had asked her for a book about little girls for little girls. Louisa, who grew up as a tomboy in an unconventional household, said she had no idea what to say about little girls…until she was reminded that she had three sisters. She finally agreed, and the rest is history. She wrote the manuscript in just a few months, and I doubt she ever could have dreamed the impact it would have.

Nearly 100 years later, in a small town in Illinois, a woman who loved Little Women as a child names two of her children after characters in the book. And now, after passing more than half a century of my own life, I have finally visited Orchard House and seen the desk where she wrote her classic story. Now a writer and attempting to embark on my own fiction career, visiting Orchard House is my version of Mecca.

We flew in to Albany and made our first literary stop in Amherst, home to both Emily Dickinson and later, Robert Frost. Emily came alive as much more than a fascinating recluse, but also as a woman who asserted her independence and whose poetry broke the rules of its day. She wrote on the backs of envelopes and other scraps of paper, making editing notes in the margins. A local newspaper published several of her poems, heavily edited and without her permission, much to her displeasure. We still know little about her, because most of her letters were destroyed at her request. We do know, though, that she drew inspiration from nature, often walking on her family’s land, connecting to God as she did so.

Later, we took the scenic route to Stow, traveling along the rolling hills. It’s still chilly there, so the trees are just starting to bud. The crocus flowers have emerged from the ground and have started to bloom. In a few more weeks northern Massachusetts will be alive with color, but even in its current, starker state, it invites the creative spirit to come alive.

When one visits Concord, history springs forth from every corner. From a window at the Old Manse, where Emerson lived for a time, his grandparents saw the first shots of the Revolution on the Old North Bridge. Nathaniel Hawthorne and his wife, who also lived in (and was evicted from) the Old Manse, wrote on the window panes with her diamond ring, leaving their mark…it displeased the Ripley family who owned the house at the time, but not enough for them to replace the glass. For that we are thankful!

Orchard House has its own surprises. May Alcott, the sister on whom the character of Amy was based, had a successful career as a fine artist before dying young after the birth of a child. While living there, she drew figures in pencil all over the window trim, and the unorthodox parents didn’t scold her. Those drawing still exist, as do many of her paintings that grace the walls of the home.

The mark of the Transcendentalists lies everywhere. The ghosts of Emerson, Thoreau, the Alcotts, and others wander Concord to this day. Here, people fought passionately for the abolition of slavery and for women’s rights. Not every venture was successful, as some of the Transcendentalists were notoriously impractical. The Alcotts, for example, nearly starved to death as a result of Bronson Alcott’s communal living experiment at Fruitlands. They intended to live off the land, but no one really knew how. Thoreau had the knowledge but kept his distance from Fruitlands, preferring to visit from time to time.

Visiting these homes and exploring my literary ancestry, I felt images and scenes fill my mind. I came home with a new armful of books to read and questions to ponder, hopefully restocking my writer’s well for new stories and ideas. The most interesting aspect of the trip came about as an “accident,” though. I had originally planned to travel alone. This was, after all, my Mecca and no one else’s. As the trip grew closer, my husband, who had had other plans for that weekend, asked if I would mind if he came along. I said no, as long as the purpose of the visit remained intact. He hasn’t read these books, although I did sit him down to watch Little Women to learn the story! In a rare twist, I did most of the talking on this trip while he listened.

In the end I understood how much of myself I keep to myself. He and I have spent six years together, and for the first time I cracked a door open to invite him into a part of my world that has heretofore been mostly a secret. This happened in the same week that I am interviewing editors to look at Change of Plans, with the intent of getting it out to an audience. Perhaps this trip was my declaration to “come out” more as a writer, to let go of my Dickinsonian tendencies. I hope so. I just know that in visiting some of my heroes, in hearing their joys and sorrows, triumphs and tragedies, I am renewed and ready to write again.

Alcott Grave
Alcott Grave on "Authors' Ridge" of Sleepy Hollow Cemetery

Filed Under: writing Tagged With: books, Concord, creativity, Emerson, Emily Dickinson, Little Women, Louisa May Alcott, MA, nadine feldman, nadine galinsky, novelist, novels, Thoreau, Transcendentalism, Transcendentalists, women, writing

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