Aug 312011
 

A few weeks ago I wrote about how you could excavate buried dreams and start to bring them to the forefront. So maybe you try something, like pulling out a sketch pad and drawing. You’re excited, revved up, ready to go. Then you discover that the brilliant idea in your head has come out looking like a first grader’s eager but technically challenged effort. You may ask yourself then, “What was I thinking?”

It’s easy to get discouraged if you’re feeling obsolete. Believe me, I know. I spend my days writing, revising, and studying my craft, and for what? I know I am working against the odds. Even building a blog audience, as I attempt to do here several days a week, seems fraught with discouragement as the audience remains small. A lot of people give up and leave their novels in a drawer.

So why do it? Why pursue a dream that may not, probably won’t, come true?

The first answer, for me, is that my life is a happier one when I pursue my dreams. I used to work in a corporate environment. I worked hard each day composing and revising contracts for the natural gas industry. I worked with great people that I sometimes miss, but more often than not I hated getting up and going to work each day. I hated the politics, the chauvinism, the attempts of others to hijack my day and rearrange my priorities to the detriment of the work.

On my lunch hours, I wrote. Yes, people started to think I was antisocial, but that’s another story. When I wrote, I could let go of the morning and face the afternoon. Writing, even on a day when writing didn’t come easily (which is often), brought me joy.

Second, we teach our children to find their bliss. We have spent countless hours helping my husband’s children find their educational and career paths, always advising them to find something they can enjoy doing. If we’re not teaching them by example, what will they really learn? They tend to do as we do, not as we say. Besides, why should they have all the fun?

Finally, is it possible that we need to redefine what success means to us? We are conditioned in this society that more is better…bigger houses, newer cars, more stuff. What’s our job title? How much are we making? Sadly, we have even begun to judge peoples’ worth by their income levels, as evidenced by the current snobbery toward low wage earners.

Yet all these “things” don’t bring genuine quality of life. Yes, having enough money to make ends meet and enjoy life a little is a good thing. I’ve been broke and I’ve had money, and having money is definitely better…but it doesn’t make us better people. And, some people who make a lot of money genuinely love their jobs. Some make a difference in the world with their work, or use the money they earn to support causes they believe in.

What makes us a success, though, is not how much we earn but whether we are engaged in life and feeling a prevailing sense of joy about who we are. When we are true to the best of ourselves, honing and developing our talents, we are successful. Money may or may not come from that. But true happiness will.

Now that we’ve defined why we do what we love, the question is, how do we keep ourselves going when we feel discouraged? How do we draw that next sketch, revise the story that has gone awry, or keep going when we’re just too darn tired? Or, what happens when health or other life circumstances derail our dreams altogether? How do we find strength when a dream is taken from us altogether?

That’s for next week, folks. Stay tuned for Part II.

Aug 302011
 

This one is for my writing buddies out there in the blogosphere. Aren’t we all looking to build our audience, whether it’s to market our fiction or just find readers for all that hard word we do as writers? Here’s an opportunity for writers and bloggers to help each other.

Visit Rachel Harrie , author and blogger, to find out the details! But hurry, August 31 is the deadline.

Aug 302011
 
Goats Photo

A surprise appearance on a hike from Sils to Isola.

Before leaving Houston for Switzerland, I dutifully wrote several blog posts in advance. After all, I am on vacation and want to enjoy living in this lovely pastoral setting. However, with each hike, words fly up from the ground and into my brain, demanding that I pay attention. If there is anything I have learned by midlife, it is to respect my inner promptings and let them have their say.

I have also learned that Boomers love to travel, so I’m happy to weave some of my own travel experiences within the context of A Woman’s Nest. It also seemed appropriate as we transition from summer to fall, and to our upcoming September focus on stillness. Since we talk about books on Tuesday, then, I thought I would step away from yet another book about menopause (don’t worry, I’ll come back to it sooner or later!) and talk about travel books.

Peter Mayle has his Provence. Frances Mayes has Tuscany. And Rick Steves, of course, has made a great living letting people know the sights, sounds, and activities to experience while traveling. We don’t agree on everything — he’s fond of Avignon and not as fond of Arles and Aix en Provence, for example, where we lean in the opposite direction. That said, we listen to his podcasts and watch his shows, always gathering the information he shares so generously.

Rick had to learn that sometimes what people want are the high points of a place. For some, a visit to Paris is a once-in-a-lifetime trip, so they need and want the “best” art to see in the Louvre so they can zip through it quickly. Rick has met that need, but in one of his books, Travel as a Political Act, we get to see more of Rick Steves. We get to read his perspectives of not how to travel, but why. He shares how his visits over the years have caused his politics to evolve, and explains how we can broaden our own horizons when we travel.

Maloja Mountain

Another day, another breathtaking view

This was the first place I learned the term “roundtrip revolutionary.” I became one last year on a visit to Costa Rica, where I volunteered for two weeks. The term, though humorous, has a serious point to it. We may go somewhere and volunteer for a period of time, but we always have that plane ticket home, while the people we assist are fighting the good fight day in and day out to serve children, fight poverty, and bring needed medical assistance to the poorer regions of the world. I griped because I lived without hot water for two weeks (mainly because I knew that the locals actually did have hot water), but I got to come home to a cozy bed and plenty of food. I had an “off” switch for my experiences.

I think a lot about Rick’s book as I wander through the mountains of this part of Switzerland. One has a great deal of time to think in the hours on the path. I realize that with each trip, I learn more about a part of the world that is foreign to mine in many ways, and that’s a good thing. Here, German, Italian, and Romansche cultures blend together. A lake can be a luc, a lej, or a loggia. Our town is Sils or Segl, depending on what sign you read. English isn’t at the top of the list; it’s about midway down. On the path we greet fellow hikers with “Goetze” (roughly, as I understand it, God be with you), but some say Bongiorno, and we even hear a few Bonjours. In this tiny area, many different peoples coexist with relative ease.

The idyllic nature of this area is broken by the sound of construction. Others have discovered Sils’s charm and want to visit or live here. The locals try to deal with demand vs. the need to keep the charm and purity of the town. As with many tourist areas of the United States, the tension between progress and preservation requires much debate. It will be interesting to see what happens to Sils over the next five or ten years.

As I ponder Rick’s book, I also think about the stereotypes that we have, sometimes unintentionally, that travel allows us to release. One big example is that I learned on my first trip to France that the French are no more rude than any other society. In fact, I find the French to be interesting, engaging, and friendly people. And the Swiss are not dressed up looking like Heidi or the kids from The Sound of Music. I haven’t heard a single yodel. Instead, I see people, more or less like us, who are generous to share their favorite places to hike.

I also recognize that life here is different from, say Zurich or Geneva, where picturesque landscapes give way to urban sprawl, where spaciousness gives way to crowds. I’m far away from the public restrooms of the city with their bluelights that make it harder for an addict to find a vein. Even this gorgeous and prosperous country has its share of problems.

Yet we are here, and we continue to learn. We continue to look at travel as both personal and political. If you also love to travel and want to know more about a place than its highlights, then I highly recommend Travel as a Political Act by Rick Steves. You’ll be thinking about it long after you have finished reading it.

Silvaplana

A view of Silvaplana.